Everyday at work, I watch white people and their kids interact. They always give them words of encouragement; telling them they’re great, they’re doing a great job, explaining things to them. Even if they’re doing the most simplest things. Then, I think about my parenting skills and those around me and even my moms […]

I’ve always been that girl who roots for the girl with that natural Afro, the beautiful braid-out, the wicked nice twist-out or the bomb ass Bantu knot-out. I’m the girl that’s like, “Yassss Afro!!” But rooting for myself hasn’t been that easy. My hair journey has been up, down and all around. It first started […]

“I can’t deal with y’all shit, mommy shit and Rashaad’s shit!”   Last year almost pushed me to the edge. That was me breaking on my sisters in our group chat… In 2018, I found myself in the eye of a hurricane holding onto my mom, sisters and brother. Making sure they didn’t get pulled […]

So, like I’ve previously mentioned, I moved out of Brooklyn…. One of the most terrifying decisions I’ve ever made was to buy a house. Because, I never imagined myself being single and owning a home. I always imagined being married, having two and a half kids, white picket fence, coming home from work picking up […]

Parenting shit is ridiculously, unbelievably… hard. It’s extremely hard for those who have a full time job and/or go to school. So, my hats off to those who do it because I know where you’re coming from. I’m not taking away from those who take care of their child/ren full time, but those who have […]

“When I understood that forgiveness does not mean re-entry I was able to find peace” – Alex Elle You might be wondering, why the hell am I meeting the girlfriend?!… Well, I have to meet the girlfriend because, when your child is around someone often you must know who they are. Point blank. So, my […]

Have You Ever Met A Woman Who Fell Out Of Love With Love?   I would always tell myself, no matter what, I’ll still believe in love… now I’m questioning whether I believe in love and real relationships…. In my opinion, relationships aren’t real because people in general aren’t real. When you meet someone nowadays, […]

  “DISCRETION DOESN’T MEAN HIDE YOUR LOVE LIFE – IT MEANS BE WISE ABOUT THE INFORMATION YOU SHARE & WITH WHOM YOU SHARE IT WITH”     It took me a while to fully understand what the above quote meant (years to be exact!). I used to think public displays of love via social media […]

So, you’ve read the title, now it’s time for the story… I decided to go to a blowjob class. My homegirl introduced me to the idea a while ago, usually the girls agree to do things but never follow through and after about a year of procrastination, I decided to go. Before I went I […]

A Couple of months ago I read something on instagram that said, “Re-post, if you’re faithful to a single n*gga”. People were re-posting and making fun of it, but in my mind I was wondering, why? Why re-post something that you know you’re not happy with? Why agree with it? Why not change your situation? […]

“I Can’t Be Great For People Who Are Bad For Me And I Had To Learn That I Needed To Stop Chasing After Relationships That Were Fading” – Alexandra Elle, Love in My Language Why do we chase men? Especially those who can’t do sh*t for us. I see so many women chasing men, instead […]

Everyday I drink two glasses of red wine and frequently, I read relationship books. I follow relationship gurus on social media and I often screenshot their quotes. I often see them telling women to take time out before jumping into a relationship. Then, I went to a Tony Gaskins seminar and he told a woman […]

My not so peaceful sleep was interrupted by a strange sound this morning. I jumped out of my bed and ran straight towards my son’s room, but instead, was greeted by a bathroom full of throw up. I said to myself at 3 a.m. “sometimes parenting suck!” He made it to the bathroom, but was […]

“The love is still there, my presence is just gone” – Rob Hill Sr. So, I’m single. The only man in my life is my son. We go to the movies, we go out to eat, he cracks corny kid jokes and I pretend its funny and the only thing snoring in my room at […]

This post isn’t about labeling anyone a hoe, this post is about why you’re being called a hoe…. Now, I’m the first one to defend a chick if a man calls her a hoe. Men call women hoes when they can’t hit, if she’s not interested or if she smashed more than one person he […]